Relaxed breezy calm carefree casual composed
E a s y flexible laid-back unconcerned nonchalant serene
tranquil collected even-tempered free and easy
loose happy-go-lucky! mild n a t u r a l unconstrained
light cool as a cucumber cool-headed unruffled
imperturbable laid back level-headed unemotional still
serene pleased satisfied placid adequate content
soothed happy CLEARheaded sure of myself
self-assured serene harmonious in order reposed
complacent BOLD assertive satisfied certain
hopeful positive secure undaunted VALIANT
organic unapologetic confident
I am shocked at how distant and unfamiliar these words seem to me. I want to feel these words more. A lot more, but I am somehow scared and intimidated by them. If I let them in and stay for too long, its like I am letting my guard down. I wouldn’t be prepared if something were to go wrong. How can I be “ready” for scary eventualities if I am lost in a cloud of fuzzy, feel-good feelings?
What I am trying to understand is that “ready” and “content” can co-exist. And beyond that – I don’t have to be “ready” all the time. I just need to trust that, when something scary arises, I can handle it. I can be comfortable and prepared at the same time.
What are some feelings that you want? Feelings that seem illusive but that you would love to become regular, constants in your life?
Nervous Worried Concerned Uneasy fretful full of angst fearful doubtful dreadful jitters miserable agitated misgiving mistrusting
panicked unbalanced restless SUFFERING troubled uncertain butterflies careful disquieted distressed fidgety shaky fussy bothered shakes shivers watchful all-overs ants in pants goose bumps nail-biting pins and needles eager intense impatient itchy frantic ardent off avid expectant upset wired uncomfortable TENSE unsettled neurotic agitated taut carried away apprehensive edgy ill at ease twitchy solicitous overwrought on tenterhooks like a fish out of water antsy weird discomposed uptight basket case hyper in a tizzy daunted vigilant cautious perplexed fidgety perturbed frozen stuck petrified intimidated crazed berserk shook up unhinged hysterical out of one’s mind crazy mental worked up tied up in knots worried sick desperate
oppressed frazzled irked OBSESSIVE weighed down addled discomposed muddled unglued “bundle of nerves” skittish touchy ALERT!!! all a dither unnerved keyed up harried beset hard-pressed wonky stressed AWKWARD insecure self-conscious unsure rattled disconcerted ruffled riled up frazzled wonky beside myself agitated turbulent indefinite meek
Too many of these words take up too much of my day.
These words represent feelings that wash over me often and stay with me far too long. Typically, I either try to ignore these feelings or put my head down and barrel through them, but I am learning that this doesn’t work. The more I ignore them, the more they stick around. They come for a reason and need to be acknowledged, so they will hold their ground until I give them some attention.
I am learning that I have to see these feelings and spend a little time with them. I need to identify them and sit compassionately with them. I need to give them space and attention. Only then will they release their strong hold on me and flow away – leaving room for other, more peaceful feelings.
What are some of your difficult feelings? The ones that you wish would give you some breathing room?